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Reflective Practices

Help Kids to Develop Reflective Skills Self Reflection and Children  

Self reflection is a skill that children of all ages need to develop. This is a skill that will help kids in adulthood in many ways including developing their self-esteem. Being reflective means being able to think about what you have done, why and if it was effective.

If children can adapt their behaviour after reflecting on what went well or not well, those that can will hold a worthy skill.

There are various ways to promote self reflection skills.

Journal writing is a very effective way to start these skills. By writing down what they are thinking and feeling kids will be able to review and contemplate on their actions and reactions.

Children also need to learn to develop self-questioning skills as another important way they can develop their reflective skills.

Questions to Develop Self Reflection in Children

  • How do I feel?
  • How did I feel earlier in the day, yesterday or the week before?
  • Why do I feel this way?
  • Why did I act in a certain way? What prompted me to act like that?
  • What does this tell me about myself?
  • What can I learn from this situation?
  • If I am in this situation again, what would I do the same and what would I do differently

Activities to Promote Children's Self-Reflection Skills

Mirror Activity

Give your child a hand mirror. Ask them think about a recent event that made them (use different words happy, proud, sad, disappointed) while looking in the mirror. Ask them to think about the event and what they did, what went well, what didn't and how they will handle a similar event in the future. It will be easier for many children to do this while looking at themselves in the mirror rather talking directly to a parent.

Two stars and a Wish

You could use this one any time of day! After an event or experience, ask your child to tell you two stars and a wish, that is two things that went well and they are happy with and one thing they want to improve.

Resource: Grow, love, Grow Love Learn

So How Was School Today? (Without actually saying those words!)

  1. What was the best thing that happened at school today?  (What was the worst thing that happened at school today?)
  2. Tell me something that made you laugh today.
  3. Where is your favourite place at school?
  4. Tell me an interesting word that you heard today. 
  5. If I called your teacher tonight what would she/ he tell me about you?
  6. How did you help somebody today?
  7. How did somebody help you today?
  8. Tell me one thing that you learned today.
  9. When were you happiest at school today?
  10. Who would you like to play with at recess that you've never played with before?
  11. Tell me something good that happened today.
  12. What do you think you should do/learn more of at school?
  13. What do you think you should do/learn less of at school?
  14. Who in your class do you think you could be friendlier to?
  15. Where do you play the most at recess?
  16. Who is the funniest person in your class?  Why is he/she so funny?
  17. What was your favourite part of lunch?
  18. If you got to be the teacher tomorrow what would you do?
  19. Tell me about three different times you wrote today at school.
  20. Tell me two stars and one wish about how your day went.

Based on Reference: Simple Simon and Company